To kiss your friends, or to not kiss your friends. This has been the great debate of our times. I mean, not really. But it’s been the great debate of this week.
As queers, we reserve the right to have our friendships not look like yours, SUSAN! But also, boundaries are good, and you can have good boundaries and also kiss your friends.
The great debate on whether or not kissing friends is a thing that’s fine to do started on, where else, Twitter. And it has spiraled. Boy, has it spiraled!
It all began (but not really) after user @tinykinseyscale posted that kissing platonic friends is a weird thing that “gays and queers” do:
idk man. it’s the way gays and queers will try to normalize kissing your platonic friends and calling it “liberating” or some shit instead of what it really is: lacking solid boundaries
— medusa (@tinykinseyscale) January 17, 2022
As you can imagine, the gays and the queers flew all the way off the handle at this:
if kissing ur friends is within ur boundaries I don’t see the issue https://t.co/Yx5gSKNqCl
— グッドボーイ(afro-krakoan) (@lefthandedhater) January 18, 2022
There was a discussion of boundaries. What are they? Are they good? Do they involve kissing?
If my friends and I mutually enjoy kissing each other, how are we lacking solid boundaries? Boundaries, in terms of expressions of intimacy, are made between the parties involved in said expressions. There’s no universal base. If you don’t like kissing your friends, then don’t? https://t.co/hksvC9VmcG
— Michael. (@yosoymichael) January 18, 2022
Finally, the truth emerged.
im an adult….im fucking my friends not just kissing them, loser. https://t.co/2xGXupA4fL
— live, laugh, levi (@hatsonwigs) January 18, 2022
Shots were fired:
there’s a difference between kissing friends with whom u have established this is an acceptable form of intimacy, and kissing friends who prefer to reserve that kind of intimacy for romantic relationships. perhaps it is you who is not picking up on those boundaries! https://t.co/IT2mVaYrrg
— im an empath (@HormonalJew) January 18, 2022
Love is cancelled:
gays and queers and kissing friends / and saying “i love you” to what end / that’s some shit i can’t defend / i’ve looked at life that way https://t.co/sajG4OYMky
— christmas evelyn (belated) (@yeetismurder) January 18, 2022
Let’s just call it like we see it:
if you don’t like hooking up with your friends just say that. there’s nothing wrong with hooking up with your friends if you’re all communicating! having relationships with a lot of people that don’t fit the social norm does not equal a lack of boundaries pic.twitter.com/CHWG0D73gl
— Elly Belle 🔮 (gay goth guy fieri) (@literElly) January 18, 2022
The main takeaway here is that if you like kissing your friends, go ahead and keep kissing them, as long as you have their consent. If you don’t want to kiss your friends, well, don’t. It’s that simple!
Personally, I love kissing my friends
— danny (@jersey_dck) January 18, 2022