Dating Data

Here’s what queer dating is like, according to dating app Hinge

Hinge spills the tea on LGBTQ+ dating trends.

With the introduction of dating apps, finding the one (two or more) is as simple as a click of a button. Well, it might not be that easy, but Hinge has a few findings that shed light on what queer and trans people are seeking in the dating scene. So whether you’re into a coffee dates or want to dive into deep questions on the first date, Hinge’s 2024 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. Report has some insights for you.

On Thursday, “the dating app designed to be deleted” released its second annual LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. (Data, Advice, Trends, and Expertise) Report. The new study, which was conducted among over 14,000 Hinge users, highlights LGBTQ+ dating trends, firsthand perspectives from queer and trans daters, and practical tips from Moe Ari Brown, Hinge’s Love & Connection Expert and a licensed therapist. The report guides readers through what Hinge calls a “slowmance.”

Slowmance refers to slowing the pace one takes with a budding connection to “enjoy the ride,” build trust, set intentions, and establish clear boundaries. Not surprising that Hinge would highlight this when the study showed that “50% of LGBTQIA+ daters want to learn how to build trust better” and “58% of LGBTQIA+ Hinge daters want to learn to bring up their wants and needs in relationships.” Ultimately, creating emotional intimacy was top of mind for Hinge daters.

“Dating can be especially complex for queer daters for many reasons. Opting for a slowmance helps LGBTQIA+ daters cultivate emotional intimacy and build the strong foundation necessary to navigate those complexities,” Moe Ari Brown says for Hinge. “The 2024 LGBTQIA+ Hinge D.A.T.E. report sees, hears and supports queer daters worldwide with a resource that offers advice and tools to build the connection, vulnerability and trust they desire in relationships.”

Yet getting to that point might be challenging. The study showed that 10% of the survey respondents “prefer someone to start a conversation with them by asking them about their dating intentions,” with most daters preferring to get know their date a bit more before those intentions are set. So, don’t think about skipping the small talk yet, as only 20% preferred “someone to start a conversation by skipping the small talk and asking a deep question.”

While good conversation is critical to a date going well, so is the environment. Low-pressure dates, or spots with relaxed environments that foster open, meaningful conversations, allow for daters to get to know each other at their pace. The top low-pressure date location was a coffee shop, followed by a bar (21%) and a restaurant (20%), whereas the top first-date topics were personal growth (58%), identity (51%), family dynamics (32%) and societal issues (32%).

But when dating is done, there’s the popular partner reveal. The “soft launch,” or the subtle posting of photos of a romantic partner (without revealing their full face/identity) on a public platform, is actually helpful for queer daters who may not be “out” to family, friends, and coworkers. Therefore, Hinge daters’ top reasons for a hard launch were to “enjoy the early stages of the relationship before involving others (58%), protect their own privacy (44%), and understand each other’s boundaries (40%).

Dating just got a little easier with the 2024 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. Report. Check out the full report on Hinge’s blog.

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