Trans folks are asking: What’s the funniest way to figure out you’re trans?

Coming into your gender identity can be lots of things: euphoric, complicated, and messy, to name a few. But figuring out you’re trans can also be hilarious, and these stories of discovery prove it.

On a Reddit post titled “What was the funniest way y’all figured out you were trans?”, trans folks shared their funniest egg-cracking moments. For lots of people, the realization came from conversations with friends and partners.

“I told my friend word for word ‘I wish I was trans so I could be a boy,’” one user shared. “She just stopped and stared at me for a second until I really considered what I said.”

“I asked my best friend at the time, ‘Do you ever just wish you had a dick?’” recalled another. “She looked me in the eyes and went, ‘No, I do not.’ It was a very awkward 20 seconds and then we just cackled.”

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One user said their experience wasn’t funny at the time, but cracks them up in retrospect. “Had an argument with my now ex-girlfriend, who happened to be bi,” they explained. “Went something like: Me: ‘Well what do you want from me? I can do whatever you need; I just need you to tell me.’ Her: ‘Well I wish I was with a woman!’ Me: ‘I certainly wish I could be that for you. It’d make us both happier.’ … Her: ‘…what?’”

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Some trans masculine folks remembered childhood fears of growing breasts, and all the lengths they’d go to to avoid it.

One was a selective swimmer: “I wouldn’t do breast stroke because I thought I’d grow breasts,” they wrote.

“Prior to top surgery I had a rather large chest,” wrote another. “I remember when I was a young teen my grandma would always make jokes about I have a large chest because of all the chicken I eat, so I literally stopped eating chicken in hopes that my chest would stop growing ‘cause I seriously believed me eating chicken was the reason they were so large.”

Others think their childhood music taste should’ve given it away. “The fact that I loved both the song ‘Do It Like a Dude’ by Jessie J, and ‘I’m Not Gay’ by J Pee when I was younger and nobody thought I was transmasc at all,” wrote one user. “Looking back I find it so funny because I f*cking loved those songs for an indescribable reason. Now I know why.”

One person discovered their trans identity purely out of spite and disdain. “I got one book that’s a book of exercises to explore your gender identity,” they wrote. “I started it, and I realized: I f*cking hate these exercises, they feel stupid, and I’m still doing them. Only reason I could be putting up with so many stupid things is if my feelings were legit. My disdain for the ‘are you trans’ exercises cracked my egg, which is a very roundabout way for them to work.”

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