There is unconditional self love to be found in taking up space physically, mentally, and spiritually. But for too many of us in the community, growing up queer meant shielding our identity for safety. If we were unapologetically ‘out’ we had to defend ourselves against bigots and remain in a place of uncertainty that didn’t create a lot of self confidence. The notion of taking up space is a privilege not many are afforded, and that’s okay, but it’s also important to understand that it’s never too late. The gestures of taking up space can be any size— all that matters is finding what works for you.
But what does it really mean to ‘take up’ space as a queer person?
It can mean a lot of things. Taking up space can be as fun as getting piercings, dyeing your hair, having an array of tattoos, and wearing clothes representing your sexuality.
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Taking up space in a public setting includes grocery shopping at your own pace, parking correctly despite honking horns trying to rush the process, attending social events, and eating at restaurants alone.
Taking up space in romantic endeavors means asking out an attractive person, being the one to send the first text, being intimate (holding hands, initiating kisses, longing gazes), and communicating your feelings and concerns without worrying about others’ feelings.
Taking up space in forming friendships/communities means inviting them out, engaging mutually in each other’s interests, setting healthy boundaries, and being open to criticism.
Basically, start caring less about what others think of you and more about how you view yourself. You are the creator of your universe, and you owe yourself a peaceful and fulfilling life.
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